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Attempting to get a date can be one of the toughest things that a man can do. It can be rather frustrating for men, cause it’s hard to figure out what women want. Mainly because of the fear of an embarrassing situation that could leave you traumatized for the rest of your life (or for even a shorter period of time) or in fear of rejection. To tell you the truth, any guy can pick up any girl, but a lot of factors depend on how things could go.

One of the most important factors that could make your palms sweaty and your voice sound funny and squeaky and make your knees go so weak that you just have to sit down is lack of confidence. You need to be confident on how you’re going to approach things, what you’re going to say to a girl when you first meet her, your appearance. Some guys are so worried about the way they look that they constantly groom  themselves on the move, unaware that a lotta people are watching. Then there is also timing. Timing is also essential for a successful date. But one of the most easiest and fastest way to get a yes from a girl is to know that she is attracted to you. It would really make a lotta difference.

Anyway, here are a few things that you might want to keep in mind before asking a girl out.

1. The initial contact: How to first approach a girl can be a little tricky, because you don’t want to be jumpy or show that you’re tense. Keep your cool and calmly move about. Look for an opportunity for eye contact or common topic that you could talk about and comment something about it. Important thing is to greet her with a smile. While talking to her, reply politely with a smile.

2. Be well groomed: Remember, you don’t have to be the best looking guy in the block, but you do need to show that you care about your appearance. It’s important to wear something that is clean and comfortable and a small dash of cologne and you’re set. Dress enough to impress, whoever that girl might be. Remember, first impressions means everything.

3. Thing about what you’re going to say: It’s best to have something in mind, something to say. Cause if you get too nervous, you might get a sudden speech impediment and and wonder, “what the hell am i saying??”. Complement her. Tell her how nice she is looking. Believe me, girls love to be complemented. Tell her how nice her hair is looking, or how bright her eyes are.

4. Be straightforward and confident: The best way to ask her out would be face to face. If that’s not possible, then the best alternative would be over the phone. Be casual. Talk politely and friendly. If she says yes, then have a plan and keep something interesting in mind. You could suggest an idea that you have. If she says no, keep it cool. Respond as if nothing had ever happened and respond as politely as before. If she says,” …some other time…”, it’s either she’s not interested or she likes you enough as a friend and doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. Accept it as a rejection and move on.

5. Stand by your word and keep only the promises that you can keep: It is very important to fulfill the promises that you make. You tell her something that you’d do for her and you promise her, DO IT. Never be halfhearted with such things. She could be really hurt or offended, knowing the fact that you don’t really care much, trust me.

Remember, be comfortable with what ever you’re doing. Be honest with what you say and what you feel. If you’re out on a date, and you’re feeling nervous, don’t be.  Just tell yourself that you’re not nervous, you’re just excited. Give and accept complements. Don’t brush down a complement and pull yourself down. Accept it. Get your knowledge levels up so you know what’s going on around you, cause being stupid just won’t do. Talk to her about your opinions on matters and things around you. Tell her what your ambitions in life are. Believe me, girls like guys who know what they are doing. You have to be confident with what you are doing and what you have to do.

Lastly, never rush things. Women like patient man who are willing to listen to what they have to say. Keep in mind to respect her thoughts and views. If there is something that you don’t agree with, disagree with respect. Say something like,”…i would have to disagree with you on that….respectfully, of course…”. It would be more than enough and it would keep interest levels up for her as well as you.

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