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I have to admit, I’m a little jealous guy. Jealous maybe about work or things that I like. That’s pretty much that. But not those intense types as few people seem to experience.

But sometimes jealousy with a little intensity does cloud me up. It easy enough to get jealous about something, say your college crush is dancing with another mate, your wife talking with the neighbor who looks more charming then you.

Jealousy doesn’t needs to be just men and women relationships, it can happen with anything your friends, family, work, skills etc. Jealousy can easily become your self destruction button. I just want the things that I speak about could be a lifesaver for you.

Stop comparing yourself with others.

This was something I used to do during my high school days, Left it altogether. Why should you compare yourself to others, just because he can do thing better then you doesn’t means you’ll be able to do that yourself. You can easily end up being a miserable human if you keep your ego feeding with jealous thoughts.

You should understand the fact that there is always someone better then you. You can’t win it maybe somehow you manage to win but the enjoyment will last only for a matter of time. If you really want to compare, just compare you with yourself. Look at your achievements, your life, look back at things that matter to you most. If you can do this you’ll feel much better, emotionally, mentally.

Meditating away of jealous thoughts

If your mind is clogged with many things, it can easily bring up negative. A stable mind can think and reason about things. Meditating is the best way to make your mind let go of jealousy. Meditate on things like love, spirituality, nature; try diverting your mind from the negative thoughts. Just half an hour a day will surely help getting your head right for the day.

Avoid negative people

Try avoiding negative people, thou I can’t be sure if its 100% achievable, still you can manage to cut-down on the influence of negative peoples. If you encounter negative people and can’t avoid them just make sure you don’t intake there thoughts. Think of negative peoples as disposable plates (throw after use)

Talk your jealousy through with a friend.

Confess yourself about your jealousy with a close friend or a loved one. I’m sure it will lighten your heart. But make sure your friend is no Darth Sidious.

You have become jealous! Realize it.

Realizing that you have become jealous probably is the best way to overcoming your jealous feelings. That a long hard looks at yourself, and scan your thoughts, feelings, attachments and see if you have really become jealous. But denial will end you up at the same door.

Share your feelings to eradicated insecurity

Usually jealously stems into our minds if there is a sense of insecurity. I won’t say theirs anything unusual about a husband or a wife thinking his partner is cheating on him/her. The moment you encounter these kinds of thoughts communicate your feelings to your partner and you may find that it helps to put you at ease and strengthen your relationship.

Whatever the situation or reason jealousy can be such a negative force in relationships and all efforts must be taken to prevent it from taking root.

Let me know if you have encountered jealousy and how you overcame it.

Pranjal